This quiz is about your sexual values — and if that phrase doesn't mean much to you yet, that's exactly why you're here.

A sexual value is a guide for putting meaning to your sexual motivations. It's what you need for sex to feel good, meaningful, and right — the conditions that have to be present. Your values shape why you want sex and what makes it feel right or wrong. They're not fixed. They change over a lifetime, and most people have never been asked to name them.

This quiz is built on the work of sex therapist Doug Braun-Harvey, who identified six principles of sexual health:

• Consent
• Non-exploitation
• Honesty
• Shared Values
• Protection and Prevention
• Pleasure

We're focused on the fourth because knowing what you value sexually changes how you understand yourself and how you connect with others.

Why this matters

Your sexual values are already shaping your experience whether you've named them or not. They're behind the things that feel connecting or hollow, satisfying or off. When they go unnamed it's hard to know what you're actually looking for, let alone ask for it.

Knowing your values gives you a place to start — with yourself, with a partner, or in the work you're doing with your therapist.

How to use this quiz

There are no right answers here. What you're going to get is a starting point, not a verdict, not a diagnosis.

Some questions might feel difficult to answer. Take your time and try to be as honest as you can. The quiz works best when you answer based on what's actually true for you, not what you think should be.

There are three types of questions. For most statements, you'll use two sliders. The first asks how much you agree with the statement, from strongly disagree to strongly agree. The second asks how present that same thing actually is in your current life, regardless of how much you agree with it. For example, if a statement reads "Sex is one of the main ways I unwind and decompress," the first slider is asking whether you agree that's true of you in general, and the second is asking how present that actually is in your sex life right now. Some questions ask you to rate how well a statement fits you. A small number ask you to choose between two options.

A note on privacy

Your individual answers are private. What gets shared with Hannah Wood-Kraft LMFT-Associate, CST are your results — the values that came up strongest and where there may be gaps between what you need and what you're experiencing. Nobody sees your response to any specific question.